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What makes you feel chosen?
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The hard question
Get clear before you commit.
One thoughtful question can help you understand each other better than a long discussion about relationships.
Start the questionnaireStart on your own: a short quizBefore the weddingThe hard question
Your partner suggests a prenup. Distrust—or a chance to discuss protection for both?
First understand how it protects each person
I need my own legal advice
I want time to think calmly
Partner's answer is hiddenNo score
See a real example
What could your agreements look like on paper?
A conversation example, not a prenup or legal template.
Related articleHow to bring up a prenup without an ultimatumStart with yourself
Who fits your life? What matters to you?
Short quizzes about money, closeness, and your choices. Take one on your own. No sign-up, no partner required.
9 questions · 3–5 min
What kind of partner fits your everyday life?
Not a perfect-partner checklist. Nine everyday situations about closeness, freedom, and shared decisions.
Explore your answers9 questions · 3–5 min
Money in love: security, freedom, or control?
Who pays, who decides, and how much independence does each person keep? Explore your expectations without sharing your income.
Explore your answers18+ · 9 questions · 3–5 min
What helps you want intimacy?
Trust, spontaneity, novelty? Explore the conditions you currently prefer for intimacy. Adults only.
Explore your answersOriginal self-reflection quizzes, not clinical assessments or predictions of compatibility.
New · physical conversation deck
52 questions that help you really get to know each other.
For dates, couples, and a gift that will not sit unused on a shelf. English, Russian, or bilingual—with your preferred topics and level of directness.
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Try eight free printable cards · PDFSee the deckWhy Clear About Us
Understand each other first. Then decide together.
Money, roles, children, daily life, and boundaries can be hard to discuss directly. Each person answers privately; Clear About Us then shows where expectations align and what deserves a conversation.
It is not a test or a judge. It is a calm structure for an honest conversation before major commitments and costly misunderstandings.
For couples
First, the relationship. Then, the family.
These are two different choices. Select the kind of relationship you want now and the family model you may want later. Then compare your answers privately.
Not sure what fits yet?
A short personal questionnaire can help you explore both directions. No partner or account is required.
Help me decideStep 1
What kind of relationship do you want now?
Explore relationship typesPopular choices
For example: exclusive dating, cohabitation, LAT, or co-parenting.
Step 2
Popular choices
This choice is about future roles, money, children, and decision-making.
Step 3 · Optional
What else should you take into account?
These circumstances do not replace your family model. Choose any that apply; they will appear in the invitation and open additional preparation paths where available.
No registration. Private links remain active for 7 days.
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How to start the conversation
Anonymous · no registration
Send a low-pressure invitation that explains this is not a test and has no “right” answers.
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Would you take a short private questionnaire with me on Clear About Us? My initial choices are: — relationship format: not selected yet; — future family model: not selected yet; No account, names, or contact details are required. We answer separately and then see what is worth discussing. It is not a test or a judgment of our relationship—just an easier way to understand each other's expectations.https://www.clearaboutus.app/?lang=en
Still deciding? · For one person
Which relationship and family models fit you best?
A short private questionnaire helps you explore the relationship format that fits now and the family model you may want later.
8questions
3–5minutes
0personal details
Answers stay on this device and are not sent to the server. The result is a reflection aid, not a personality judgment.
A private conversation about intimacy
Can you build a life with someone who looks right on paper—but whom you barely desire?
Compare attraction, expectations, consent, fidelity, digital boundaries, and sexual health separately. There is no score, and either person may skip a question.
Free conversation guides
Not ready for the full questionnaire? Start with one topic.
See all guidesWedding plans · Free calculator
What could your wedding cost?
Explore a dinner for two or a big celebration. Choose a US state, guests and honeymoon, then optionally compare plans with your income and savings. Editable estimates, not vendor quotes. No registration.
Before marriage · Prenup
Thinking about a prenup? Start with a conversation.
Choose answers to 16 questions, download your notes, and prepare asset and debt lists for your own lawyer. Free, no registration. Not a legal contract.
Articles and open discussion
One difficult question at a time.
Read a practical perspective, choose your position, and join an anonymous discussion—no account required.
City life and connection
Research-backedLove in a big city: why dating can start to feel like a marketplace
Endless options, limited time and financial pressure: what research says about big-city relationships, and when reasonable expectations become transactional.
Read and discussParenthood and choice
Research-backedBeing childfree in a big city
Why people choose life without children, what city living can explain, and how couples can discuss different plans for parenthood.
Read and discussOur story
Why we built Clear About Us: important conversations without pressure
The story behind a private bilingual tool that helps couples compare expectations and prepare for an honest conversation.
Read and discussMoney and fairness
Is splitting bills 50/50 fair when incomes are different?
Four practical ways couples can split expenses when one partner earns significantly more.
Read and discussFinancial security
Should a stay-at-home spouse have a personal emergency fund?
How couples can discuss a separate security reserve when one spouse steps away from paid work.
Read and discussDebt and transparency
When should you disclose debt to a serious partner?
How to discuss loans, support obligations, taxes, and other debt before marriage or combining finances.
Read and discussHow it works
Not a compatibility score. A structure for an honest conversation.
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Choose what matters
Select your relationship stage and the decisions that matter now.
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Answer separately
Neither partner can adapt their answers after seeing the other's response.
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Talk it through
See alignments and differences, then discuss the expectations that matter.
Real-life topics
The things that feel awkward to ask directly
Questions are framed as concrete situations, not an interrogation. The question bank can evolve over time.
1Money and budgeting
2Home and responsibilities
3Personal space
4Children and parenting
5Extended family
6Career and relocation
7Conflict and boundaries
8Plans for the future